Each stage in life is different socially. When I was in my twenties and single, I was available to do anything anytime and so I tried to go and do everything. That was a fun time in life as I got to travel and try lots of new things, go to concerts and eat at nice restaurants.
Enter husband 4 years ago today. Enter son 20 months ago. Scene: just say no.
And action or rather no action. Instead Calm. Quiet. Restful. Intentional. Meaningful.
This might be a little abrupt and antisocial, but really it's a desire to have a quiet and simple family life. I don't want to spend every weekend rushing around to activities and meals out and birthday parties. I like my weekends at home, reading, playing with Miles, walking to the park.
But I think it is a fine line because I want to see my friends and family. When do I say yes to an event or activity for our family? Often I feel guilt not going. Is that when I should say no? When the guilt is urging me to go? Should I go to every single one of Miles' friends birthday parties?
I'm an introvert and my husband is becoming one as the years go on, so do we just cede to natural tendency? I don't know.
I don't think kiddie birthday parties are intrinsically evil or bad, I just don't like attending them. So help me out friends, what do you think? What makes it onto your calendar?